Six Marriage Myths 
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   Marriage settles and levels off.  Marriage can grow stronger each year as a couple stays intimately connected on a day to day basis.  Marriage settles when the connection is short circuited and husband and wife begin to live separate lives.

  The romance dies and love becomes that of a companion. We are more romantic now than ever. When intimacy, innocence, and trust are restored, romance blooms. Fires die when fuel is scarce. 

  Sex becomes a “take care of business” proposition. This happens when intimate connections get fractured.  When you heal trust and innocence you restore intimacy and a positive sexual tension keeps sex more exciting than ever. You move from “if” we have sex to “when.”

  Conflict is good if it is handled properly. I never enjoyed conflict with Laura no matter how we handled it; argument has no place in marriage. Let’s discover the reason for conflict, eliminate it, and grow closer through understanding.

  To get along, compromise.  Rather than compromise, discover the cause and bring healing to the frustration.  It’s fun when the two to become one and work as a team.

  Marriage is 50/50, if only things would change, if only he/she would. Whatever its condition you are each equally responsible. Things change when you change them. We cannot blame our spouse and wish they would…, they will change when we change the situation. Healing wounds changes you, changing you drops defenses, dropping defenses allows intimacy, allowing intimacy renews the marriage.