Help for the Blues
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The blues can affect your marriage as well as your quality of life; feeling low can  cause you and your spouse to grow apart.  Though much research has been done on depression, its causes and cures are unclear.  We know depression can be caused by trauma like divorce or abuse; and disappointment, low self esteem, and body changes are other causes.
     Clinical depression differs from feeling blue; if you feel you suffer from severe depression seek professional help, if you struggle with the blues here are a few tips to help you get on track to happier days.

Find a friend.  Conversation with a friend brings new perspective and hope to everyday life as it breaks your routine.  Make sure they are safe and confidential.  Share your feeling and let them know you just need an ear.
Good times.  Make a list of the good things in your life and repeat it often.  Find that place of being grateful in your heart until you feel it.
Positive Thoughts Think of the positive aspects of you and your life, focus on them, and get a friend to affirm you.
Do Something Break your routine, go shopping with a limited amount of money, sightsee, or help someone.  Volunteer once a week at a hospital or other facility.
Find Art Find the art form that makes you feel better, for me it is music. If you like movies, fine art, dancing, attend a few times a month. If you enjoy music, play it often.
Stop the Thought The second a blue feeling or thought hits you, reject it and replace it with a better thought. Exercise.  Light exercise like walking a few times a week can help you feel better and change your body chemistry.
Eat well.  A healthy diet contributes to feeling better about yourself and good food provides the good stuff your body needs.
Sleep well.  Get all the sleep you need and try to be regular on bed and wake times.
    If feeling low lingers consider help.  Taking charge of your life gives you purpose and a better feeling about your life.  Get your spouse to help you and grow together!